Last post, I told you about my friend helping me get right back to my excitement and confidence about my book–Why Do I Feel This Way?– almost ready to publish.
Here’s how it happened–and how it can happen for you!
It’s no mystery, and yet, it is a bit of the miraculous: our brains do it!
When we talk with other people, our brains are connecting. Somewhere along our evolutionary history, connections between humans started happening. Who knows why? They just did, and because they seemed to help us thrive, nature adopted connection as a human characteristic.
Connection helps us trust one another, instinctively. So that we can live together in community. So that our species can survive.
So, when I talk with my friend, I trust him. He asks me questions that help me “see” how I’m feeling–underneath all my pretenses and fears about succeeding and being good enough to deserve success. We all have these feelings. They’re just part of the human condition. They’re not fatal flaws or judgments against us. If you can talk with someone you trust, you can reveal those hidden feelings about yourself, and then YOU CAN DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO ACT ON THEM. You don’t have to be led around by old feelings that only stop you from going after what you want for yourself NOW.
And here’s the best part: The more you choose to take yourself back to a positive mindset, the more neurons your brain creates to support that as your new default posture. It’s a great unscientific experiment!