November 14, 2012 by Dina Wilcox
In the merest matter of weeks, my first book—“Why Do I Feel This Way?”—will make its debut in the world. So what am I feeling?
After all, it’s a book about feelings. Feelings are a major way that you and I respond to our lives. Something happens, or someone says something, and we respond by feeling. It’s not always easy to know what it is we are feeling, exactly—we have to think about that—and sometimes before we can get clear about our feelings, we complicate them with our thoughts. Feeling can seem like a tricky business, yet we have no way around it. We are human, so we have feelings, automatically, and about everything.
Right now, I’m feeling excited, exhilarated, anxious, a little stressed out I’d say, and I’m filled with wonder. How have I gotten to have this book that has my name on it? What will become of it? Of Me? What will You think of it? Of Me? How will You feel about reading it? Will you laugh and cry? Will my stories touch your heart as I intend? Will you love my unscientific experiments, the ones I invented just for us, that you can use as I did to know how your feelings and memories work? Will I be able to show you how you can use what your brain is doing with feelings like love, fear and anger, and emotions like empathy, joy, trust and even embarrassment? All our responses to life are there for a purpose: to help us thrive so that humans can survive.
Oh what miraculous things I have learned about our brains over the last 15 years! I can hardly wait for you to discover them. And I’d love to hear from you when you do. Contact me at http://www.raisinghealthyvoices.com
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May 10, 2012 by Dina Wilcox
Fear is only one way you respond to life. You also feel joy, anger, love, embarrassment. You’re having all sorts of feelings, all the time.
You can’t help yourself. You’re only human.
So what? So you need to know a few things about your feelings. They all have a purpose, in your biology. They’re like messengers, telling you about yourself, what matters to you. They help you decide who you want to be in your own life.
Here’s more: You know you’re having a feeling because you’re thinking about it–that’s automatic. And when you think about your feelings, you get to decide how you will act on them. You can decline fear’s invitation to run your life, and you can decide whether you want to love, how to deal with your anger, and what to say or do about your embarrassment.
Why Do I Feel This Way? is a new book, all about your relationship with your feelings. Knowing changes everything, and now you can know what your feelings are trying to tell you.
Interested? Check back tomorrow!
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May 3, 2012 by Dina Wilcox
You Can Think Your Fear to Death!
It’s only human to think you’re afraid of some things–we humans do it all the time. We think we’re not good enough, or smart enough, or successful enough to have what we want, and we’re afraid of feeling that way.
That’s only natural–and it’s only the beginning of a conversation. If you can think yourself into fear, you can think yourself right out of it, too. Your brain will actually change to accommodate your intention. Find out how in chapter 4 of WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY? What Your Feelings Are Trying To Tell You.
And keep this in mind: To your brain, you are the most powerful person there is: You’re the creator of your thoughts!
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April 30, 2012 by Dina Wilcox
Oh, yes; I was talking about fear. That’s what this conversation is about: FEAR.
The point about fear is this: Your brain came with a default setting for fear. It’s automatic. Fear forces you to act when you are threatened. You don’t have to think about it.
But, then, there’s another kind of fear. You CREATE this, other, fear by thinking about it. It might be a fear that you’re not smart enough, or beautiful enough; or that no one will love you; that you’ll never be successful.
That’s a fear of another color. That fear is in your brain because your thoughts put it there, and the more you think about it, the more your brain will reinforce your thoughts. It’s like a vicious circle that is powered by your thoughts.
In chapter 4 of Why Do I Feel This Way? fear is laid out so you can see it for what it is. The whole conversation is right there, in the book, along with a choice you can make.
Check here tomorrow for more information.
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April 24, 2012 by Dina Wilcox
It was still dark, just barely, and my eyes were already open wide: the end of sleep.
My mind was racing, whirling around nothing in particular. What am I doing? What have I done?
Nothing, really. I just had a dream for my life. A plan to make it come true. I stepped outside my comfort zone by imagining me, happy and fulfilled. How could that hurt?
Our brains are all about keeping us safe. Maybe that’s why they do so much automatically, without our having to think about it. In our brains, we don’t like challenges; we like survival. We create fear, perhaps to stop ourselves from chasing after every dream that we dream up. We have no choice but to feel fear–it’s one of the ways we respond to life, automatically.
On the morning I woke up fearful, the sun also came up automatically. I took my fear to my journal, where I wrote it down to size, and then I started to take action in the face of it. One small step to keep my fear at arm’s length, for this one day. One day at a time.
In chapter 4 of Why Do I Feel This Way? What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You, we’ll learn about our fear, where it comes from and why we can’t prevent it. We’ll also speculate about how we can meet fear head on and put it out of business. Let’s talk about this!
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